Since early in 2013 we’ve been helping our son transition from a teen girl to a teen boy. At the time he was 14 years old and in middle school.There were lots of little things over the years that made me wonder if there was something to be concerned about. Of course lots of “tom boys” grow up to be beautiful, strong women. In fact, most of them don’t grow up to be men.
One night, Olivia (pre-Hunter FTM) was taking a bath. She was about 7 and she looked up and said to me very matter of factly, “I’m a boy.” I looked at her, took a breath, and asked, “do you want to be a boy?” “No,” she replied. Well, that was interesting, I thought.
That night always stuck with me. We never talked about it again, though; that is until about a year ago.
Prior to “coming out” to me, Olivia had been asking to shop in the boys department. Always a picky, difficult shopper, the stress level was amping up. She longed to shed her girl exterior for a more masculine look. I just didn’t know it. Or, I just didn’t see it — at least I didn’t realize how important it was.
I’m jumping around a bit but wanted to give a few highlights to bring you all up to date. Our family now consists of a mom, a dad, a daughter, a son, and the cutest dog who ever lived.
We are all learning and growing and finding ways to support Hunter and who he is and who he hopes to become. It’s often difficult. It’s never boring. It’s always interesting.
Thank you for following our journey through my words. It is my hope to share, educate, inspire, confide and enlighten.