Stand with Trans is non-profit founded in 2015. We are a 501(c)(3) organization which means that funds collected are tax deductible donations for the giver. The mission is to provide education, advocacy, mentorship, scholarship, empowerment and support to transgender youth and their families. We aim to provide the tools needed by transgender youth so they are more confident, feel validated and loved as they transition an authentic life.
Seven years ago I didn’t really even know the word “transgender,” and certainly didn’t understand what it meant to be transgender. I understood that people had different sexual orientations but really didn’t comprehend that one could be assigned a gender at birth and identify as a different gender.
Here are two acronyms I learned when my son came out: AFAB and AMAB. Do you know what these stand for?
AFAB = assigned female at birth
AMAB = assigned male at birth
When a baby is born the gender is assigned based on what we can physically see? The doctor sees a vagina you are assigned “girl” status; the baby is born with a penis, that’s an automatic “boy” status.
What I’ve learned is that not everyone identifies as the assigned gender. For me, I never questioned that I was a girl. Imagine growing up knowing you are a boy but everyone else sees “girl.” Your parents dress you in pink and frills. You are given dolls and make-up and princess dress-up clothes. You go through your whole life as if in masquerade.
The statistics show us (and I’ve seen first hand) that kids who have support from parents, friends, teachers, etc., grow up confident and possess the self-esteem to pursue a future. Notice that I said “kids” not “trans kids.” All children need to feel loved and supported. Period. However, when a transgender adolescent is struggling to come to terms with his/her/their identity, they need their parents even more.
Parental Support Matters. Only 15% of trans youth without parental support described their mental health as “very good” or excellent, compared to 70% of trans youth with parental support. (http://transstudent.org/youthsupport)
78% of transgender youth in K-12 had experienced harassment.(http://www.thetaskforce.org/static_html/downloads/reports/reports/ntds_full.pdf)
The suicide rate for transgender kids is 40% higher than for the general population.
As a parent I want all kids to feel safe. As a member of my community I feel it is my responsibility to teach others about transgender individuals. As a human being, I don’t want teens killing themselves because they can’t be who they are. Everyone deserves a chance at life – to live an authentic life.
Did you child recently “come out” as transgender? Here is a guide for you to get started. Parent Guide
Stand with Trans will create programming to empower youth. We will offer tools to aid the coming out process. We will provide education materials for parents, grandparents, siblings, neighbors and co-workers. We will teach you how to be an ally.
As a non-profit, Stand with Trans will rely on grants, private gifts and contributions from individuals and businesses.
To get involved, send me an email. I will get back to you!
For upcoming events for Transgender Youth, you can check out the Stand with Trans event page.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!